I often feel stuck when I want to write about Human Design. This is because I like to give tips that readers can apply to their own lives. However, as Human Design is so personalized and applies utterly differently for everyone, there are few general takeaways I can think of giving, especially at the beginner level. And hence my feeling of stuckness.
Perhaps a solution to this is simply to accept this is the case. And to write and talk about Human Design at any rate. Because my avoiding writing about it, which is more or less the case up to now, is kind of ridiculous considering that (1) I like to write, and (2) Human Design is one of my two primary tools in my work.
So an ounce of acceptance, and a brief guide to Human Design for beginners.
What is Human Design?
To start with, what is Human Design anyhow?
The best way I can explain it in a single sentence is to say this: Human Design is a practical tool that allows you to clarify and reach your goals more easily and effectively.
Human Design does this by helping you understand your most natural and efficacious ways for communicating, making decisions, and creating and optimizing opportunities. These are all important for reaching your goals, for when you communicate in a way that allows others to hear you, when you consistently make decisions that are correct for you, and when you get real proficient at creating and optimizing opportunities in your life, you get where you want to be a whole lot more easily.
To explain how Human Design does this, I’d love to give you a few real-life examples:
Decision-Making
I’m starting with decision-making because I strongly believe that making consistently accurate decisions is one of the best ways of succeeding. This is because everything we do in life is a decision – we decide to do something, we decide not to do something, and if we’re procrastinating it’s because we’ve decided not to decide, or at least not for now.
One of the many things I adore with Human Design is how it approaches decision-making: first, the individual in question is analyzed, and only then is a decision-making technique suggested. This is in stark contrast to popular “wisdom” where we are told that there are one, two, or three different ways of making decisions, and we must fit ourselves into those frameworks. Human Design does the opposite by selecting a framework that suits us.
Connected with this is the fact that Human Design decision-making simply works.
Let me give you an example, as examples are worth a whole lot of words. This example is about me, and my experience with Human Design decision-making.
Now, as mentioned above, due to the super-customized nature of Human Design, all of the examples here are about specific people rather than being general take-aways you can use yourself. However, there is a remedy for this issue: learn what your own Human Design is, so you can start using tips that you hear or read about.
You can figure out your Human Design yourself by doing a search for “Free Human Design Chart” where you’ll find a million and one sites eager for your attention, or else you can work with me (which would tickle me pink). A further option – check out Human Design FAQs I put up here.
When I was first exposed to Human Design, two of the things I learned about myself were the following: (1) for larger decisions, it can take me a while to come to a good decision, and I tend to sense the correct decision though my feelings, and (2) I integrate many types of information slowly.
My reaction to learning these two facts was to be utterly and totally unimpressed. This is because I am rather impatient (understatement of the century) and prefer to acting immediately, if not yesterday. So the last thing in the universe I feel like doing is waiting for some tedious decision-making or integration process to run its course.
As a result, I absolutely did not adopt my Human Design decision-making process right away. Indeed, I remained resistant to it for about three years. (Note my second point above about information integration – yes, it can take me a while…)
However, to my credit, I did make a point of noticing during this period. I paid attention to whether or not I waited to make a decision, what I ultimately did (did I follow my feelings or not?), and what the outcome was. And as time progressed and data accumulated, it became increasingly clear to me that indeed, my strongest decisions do come when I give myself the time when I need it (I don’t always need it, but many times I do), and also when I follow my inner feelings about the situation rather than what my head says. I also noticed that although we live in a get-things-done-now society, any bad repercussions that might occur from me taking time to decide was and continues to be almost always wildly out-weighed by the huge benefits I accrue by making consistently accurate decisions.
And that’s the whole point of decision-making in Human Design. Human Design the way I work with it does not say that you won’t come to good decisions if you use a different decision-making process. Sometimes you do; indeed, many times you do. What Human Design does say is that if you wish to optimize your energy and come to the most accurate decisions for yourself on a consistent basis, you might want to seriously consider the suggestions offered by Human Design.
I would also encourage you to run the experiment I did in the event you feel any sort of resistance to your individual Human Design decision-making style. Simply notice, and collect your own data. Let the results prove themselves. And ultimately do what is best for you. After all, this is your life and you are free to do what you choose.
Relationships
A second reason why I love Human Design so much is that not only does it help us understand our own most natural and effective ways for communicating, making decisions, and creating and optimizing opportunities, it also gives us insights into these exact same areas with respect to the important people in our lives. And this knowledge and understanding helps us improve our relationships with them. And after all, isn’t that what we want?
An example:
A few months ago a woman came to me for a Human Design consultation. She had two main goals for her sessions – the first involving professional direction, and the second, her relationship with her partner. Now, the two of them were getting along well, indeed, they were talking marriage, but she still wanted to bring the relationship up a few notches. Amazing on her.
The first thing we did during her sessions was look at her Human Design. And one thing that stood out, and which I personally adored seeing, was that in so many ways she was already living in harmony with her Human Design. One way in which we saw this is how speedy she was in life, which is also how her Human Design indicated was a natural way for her to be. She moved quickly, did things rapidly, and was the utter epitome of fire in so many ways. It was beautiful to watch.
Connected with this, and quite interesting in many ways, was that my client’s primary complaint about her partner was that he wasn’t like her in this respect. As she put it, he seemed to just wait for things to “fall into his lap” before responding to them. And she found this annoying and frustrating because it seemed so passive to her.
So what she and I did is look at her partner’s Human Design. And wow, talk about fascinating. For in the same same way that she was naturally in touch with and acting in accordance with her Human Design, so was he. It was simply that he was different from her. It turned out that his optimal way of operating was not to move at the light of speed as she did, but rather wait for things to come to him (“fall into his lap,” as per my client’s description) and only then respond to them.
What I found beautiful was that as soon as my client learned this, all of her resistance to his way of being and acting evaporated. Her annoyance and frustrated totally disappeared. For after all, this was his optimal way of being, and he intuitively knew it and was doing it. Good on her.
And this is one way that Human Design is such an incredible tool for improving relationships, whether it’s with children, colleagues, spouses, or partners. It provides an effective framework for viewing others as they truly are, so we are can understand and accept them for whom they are, thereby improving our relationships with them. How beautiful.
Self-Validation
A third area where Human Design is incredibly helpful is in validating many of those things we do that we have been falsely conditioned into thinking are “bad” or we “shouldn’t” be doing. Human Design does this by helping us better understand our own inner, innate wisdom.
And to explain, another real-life example:
Some time ago I had a client who wanted to stop cleaning her home so much. She told me how she’d clean whenever she felt stressed, upset, or wanted to feel better. And that how many of her friends told her she was obsessive about cleaning and that she should tone it down. Influenced by these opinions, my client began to share her friends’ opinion.
So she and I looked at her Human Design, and wouldn’t you know … it turns out that my client is super, super, super sensitive. As in way off the scale in sensitivity to both the people in her life and also her physical environment. Which means that cleaning her home whenever she feels stressed or upset or wanted to feel better makes a lot of sense. For it does make her feel better. Way, way better.
Once my client understood this, she began to feel differently about herself and her cleaning. Rather than feeling shame or embarrassment about it, she began feeling better about herself for coming up with such an easy and effective solution to some of the difficulties she encountered in being so sensitive.
Take-Aways
These are three examples of why I love Human Design so much, and believe that all of us would be benefited by understanding more about our Human Design. For the more we understand and accept ourselves as we truly and naturally are, the more effectively and efficiently we reach our goals, and best of all, we do it with a lot more fun and joy.
Have an incredible day clarifying and reaching your goals, and with tons and tons of fun and joy,
~ Sat-Sung 💜
PS As a side-note, I’m also still trying to figure what kind of take-away I could possibly share with you so you get immediate benefits from Human Design. And in truth still can’t figure it out other than to suggest that if you haven’t already, to take a look at your Human Design. As a reminder, this is a way you can do it. Plus – any any questions at all about your Human Design – speak with me.
More about Sat-Sung: I am all about supporting my clients who feel stuck, confused, or uncertain within a situation or relationship. I help you see and move beyond what is really going on under the surface, including the patterns driving the situation.
Two of the main tools I use in this regard are Bach Flowers and Human Design for they are powerful, highly customizable tools that support lasting change. I like to combine Bach Flower essences and Human Design, but my clients also have the option of working with one and not the other.
When appropriate, I also incorporate other modalities, including Essential Oils and Access Bars.
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